One sex position consistently tops the list of men’s favorites, yet many women have a very different experience, revealing a hard-to-ignore divide. This position is most frequently mentioned in this context and is also called “doggy style,” “from behind,” or “rear entry.”
Why Many Women Dislike or Hate It
Women’s experiences vary widely, but here are the most common complaints reported by women and sex therapists:
- Lack of emotional connection / eye contact Many women say it feels impersonal or “detached” because they can’t see their partner’s face or kiss easily.
- Discomfort or pain
- The angle can cause the penis to hit the cervix (especially if he’s well-endowed or thrusts hard).
- It can put strain on the wrists, shoulders, or lower back for the woman.
- Feeling objectified Some women describe it as feeling “used” rather than loved or desired as a whole person.
- Less clitoral stimulation Doggy style provides very little natural clitoral contact, which is how most women reach orgasm. Without additional manual stimulation, many women find it unsatisfying.
- Performance pressure Some women feel self-conscious about how their body looks from that angle or worry about odors/sounds.
Why Many Men Like It
- Visual appeal: Men often find the view highly arousing — seeing their partner’s back, hips, buttocks, and the motion.
- Deeper penetration: It allows for deeper thrusting and can feel more intense physically.
- Sense of dominance/control: Some men enjoy the feeling of power or the primal aspect.
- Variety and ease: It’s relatively easy to perform and offers good leverage.
Important Context
- Not all men love it, and not all women hate it. Plenty of couples enjoy doggy style when it’s done with care, communication, and modifications (pillows under the hips, slower pace, added clitoral stimulation, or facing a mirror if both enjoy the view).
- Preference is highly individual. What one couple loves, another may find uncomfortable or boring. The key is mutual enjoyment, not following online stereotypes.
Healthier Ways to Approach It
If you want to try or improve doggy style sex position:
- Communicate openly: Ask what feels good and what doesn’t.
- Add clitoral stimulation (hand, vibrator, or grinding).
- Use pillows or a wedge under her hips for better angle and comfort.
- Start slow and check in frequently.
- Alternate with face-to-face positions for intimacy.
Bottom Line
Doggy style sex position is frequently cited as the position many men enjoy more than many women because it offers strong visual and physical stimulation for him, while often providing less emotional connection and clitoral pleasure for her.
The healthiest sex position is built on mutual pleasure, consent, and communication — not on one partner loving a position while the other tolerates or dislikes it.
If this topic comes up in your relationship, the best approach is honest conversation: “What positions do you enjoy most and why?” rather than assuming based on gender stereotypes.
